crisis, what crisis? – (en)

Feeling washed-up and unsettled before you’ve even hit forty, let alone fifty? I mean that moment when you realize your children and your clothes are about the same age? He, the person is usually depicted as a “he” –sorry Eve–, turns off the alarm, disheveled stares into a bowl of soggy cereal, puts on the same shirt a tired-looking suit and goes to the office for more of the same forlorn routine. And so it continues until one day, usually the day he’s starting to lose his hair, he goes ape: Wants to see how irresistible he still is to younger women, and bangs his secretary, quits his job –always in this order–, and says: Here comes forty. I’m feeling my age and I’ve ordered the Ferrari. I’m going to get the whole mid-life crisis package. And we all nod, acknowledging the inevitable: He’ll win an Academy Award for American Beauty or he’ll make the “habanos” and Monica Lewinsky famous. But the idea that mid-life crises are common is a myth.
Don’t bother!
I’ don’t.
And I don’t cherish the cliché mid-life crisis. Frankly. The fact, for me, is thicker. Different. Deeper. Most people by the age of twenty, know they’re not going to be a rock star. By twenty-five, they know they’re not going to be a dentist. And by thirty, darkness starts moving in, they wonder if they’re ever going to be fulfilled, let alone wealthy and successful. By thirty-five, they know, basically, what they’re going to be doing for the rest of their life, and they become resigned to their fate… It’s not me, not really; but, I mean, why do people live so long? What could be the difference between death at fifty-five and death at sixty-five or seventy-five or eighty-five? Those extra years… what benefit could they possibly have? Why do we go on living even though nothing new happens, nothing new is learned, and nothing new is transmitted? At fifty-five, our story’s pretty much over…
So… See, what are we meant to do when we are there, forty-fifty, that misnamed mid-life crisis, buy a fast car, aren’t we? Well, I’ve always had fast cars. It’s not that. It’s the fear that we’re past our best… the gray hairs are not passing, but we’re trying to age with dignity. Dignity or vanity? Careful here, this obsession with dignity can ruin your life if you let it in. We turn our hearts to rocks and more or less commit a murder of the marriage, I did, guess who… hey she was asking for it !… I just don’t know, but we do. Lupine creature, don’t call it softly mid-life crisis. Everyone goes lunatic a little bit around the crescet of life… ‘cause we are much over. That’s all.
Crisis, what crisis? – By Dugutigui

About Dugutigui

In the “Diula” language in Mali, the term « dugutigui » (chief of the village), literally translated, means: «owner of the village»; «dugu» means village and «tigui», owner. Probably the term is the result of the contraction of «dugu kuntigui» (literally: chief of the village).
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18 Responses to crisis, what crisis? – (en)

  1. 40 is not old! Greetings from someone who (doesn’t look like it) but is much older.

  2. "Specially when the October wind" says:

    ..and November.
    Specially then, is when riding a bycicle has an enchanting meaning, not?
    By these clouds here:

    but an interior magical evocation, “unique” comme il a chanté:

    • Dugutigui says:

      Novembre n’est pas partout comme dans le poème de Dylan Thomas… je réside en Argentine pour le travail et nous sommes à 31 ° C 🙂
      Cependant, les deux vidéos sont grands. J’aime Ivo Livi, qui ont récemment vu deux films: Jean de Florette et Le Salaire de la peur, très éloignés dans le temps, mais deux grands films.
      Merci pour votre commentaire!

  3. Madhu says:

    Not even 50 and I am older than that even 😀 Yikes!

  4. 😀 Loved your post, D.. Very true. I am still chewing it. 😉

    • Dugutigui says:

      Hope you get something more than chewing gum 🙂 🙂 Of all the consumer products, chewing gum is perhaps the most ridiculous: it literally has no nourishment –you just chew it to give yourself something to do with your stupid idiot Western mouth.
      Half the world is starving, and the other’s going: “I don’t actually need any nutrition, but it would be good to masticate, just to keep my mind off things”.

      • 😆 😆 😆 Nope, I am not a chewing gum fan, I’m a chewing / smoking thoughts lover… 😀
        To be honest I’ve seen this crisis going on in real life, I’ve witnessed many idiotic moves and bad rushed decisions… But then what can I say? Each and every one of us is the master of his life, so when we do things we have to know that we will also live with the consequences afterwards… 😀

      • Dugutigui says:

        Good girl… 🙂 … re the chewing gum 🙂
        I’m not agreed that “each and every one of us is the master of his life.” This could be truth ONLY when you have no owners, and most of us do have. They own all the big media companies, so that they control just about all of the news and information you get to hear. And one day they decided that the solution to the misnamed mid-life crisis is to buy … the more expensive the better … could not have been otherwise, such as Christmas, buy, buy … buy idiot buy … And people, buy it … 🙂
        At the beginning of last century, diamonds had the same price as rubies or emeralds. Then appeared De Beers (Rothschild family and J.P. Morgan) and launched a powerful advertising campaign with the motto: “Diamonds are Forever” associated with “love” … that was smart! … and the price of diamonds forever departed from those of the other gemstones …
        They also invented the “democracy” -same as the diamonds campaign- to give you the illusion that you have freedom of choice. You don’t. You have no choice. You have owners. They own you. They own everything … 🙂 🙂 🙂

      • Nope, they don’t own my SOULl!!! 😆 😆 😆
        I can decide not to watch the news instead of being intoxicated , to fast instead of buying buying buying , not to connect love to diamonds (diamonds are forever? such a BS!!!!), not to make expensive presents on Christmas (rather to make Christmas a soulful family reunion than a presents parade)… well, if I do all this you can take away a part of their power… or even a big part of it?… 😀
        Do you feel 100% owned D.? I don’t. As long as I can still say my opinion I feel free. My work is only an aspect of my life, not all of it. Money are also a part of the existence, but not all the existence… That’s my POV anyway…
        And no, no good girl, rebel woman…. nothing more dangerous than that, as far as I know… 😆 😆 😆

      • Dugutigui says:

        Rebel, no doubt! The kind that really can’t think about kissing when have got a rebellion to incite!!! 🙂 🙂 Seriously, every act of rebellion expresses nostalgia for innocence and an appeal to the essence of being, and that’s great.
        But the fact is that I’m not speaking about you, or about me. I’m speaking about 99.99% of the people. In general.
        You -now you- practice some kind of intelligent resistance… and this is what everybody should be doing. The problem is the immense majority is chewing gun, instead chewing thoughts 🙂 🙂 🙂 and worried for the most idiotic things, just because they have no time for a second look… and some of them expect a better life in the hereafter… and some just have nothing to expect… and -okidoki- accept it… and few want to be rebels anymore… and out of those few, most scare easily.

  5. I’m 50 in a week. This was inspirational. After reading I will no longer waste my time thinking that I still have time — bahahahahaha!

    • Dugutigui says:

      Sorry to repeat an earlier response: As said before, this post is for average Joe, not for outstanding people like you 🙂 🙂 … and me!! 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
      For us age is just a number.
      Hope you reach another 50 + at least 🙂 Good thing of being 102 is there’s no peer pressure 🙂 🙂 🙂
      Thanks a lot for the comment !!!

    • Oh please — I love it! We — people that is — need to be knocked down a peg with healthy doses of nihilism, cynicism, realism, and whatever other kind of ism that tempers that idiotic grandiosity that we suffer from.

      • Dugutigui says:

        I am fucking agreed with you!!
        We should shun excess, shun grandiosity, shun arrogance. I believe many things are an exaggeration or just a plain hoax, and I like to piss off any school of thought that take’s itself a little bit too seriously. Lack of common sense and culture gives you a lot of illusions of false self, of self-importance, holier-than-thou, ‘cause the self-righteous always get a new godless god, a malevolent, always man-hating pseudo-philosophy, that makes them feel important –at least one minute, and it becomes difficult to stay humble and real.
        So… the beating will continue until morale improves 🙂
        End of rant.

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